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Positive Thinking For Positive Living

 

Positive Thinking

Monday December 16th

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!”

He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?” Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.’ I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.”

“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.

“Yes it is,” Jerry said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.”

I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body. I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?”

I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. “The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door,” Jerry replied. “Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live.”

“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked. Jerry continued, “The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, ‘He’s a dead man.’ I knew I needed to take action.”

“What did you do?” I asked.

“Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Jerry. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. ‘Yes,’ I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply… I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Bullets!’ Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.”

Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.

By Francie Baltazar-Schwartz

From: academictips.org.

Dreams vs Success

 

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dreams vs success

 

I am a dreamer
how many of us who manage to say these words above.
I have dreams to achieve.
do we have dreams as individuals or we dream as a crowd
we need to serve our dream, feed it and sharpen it.
how many of us who dream each and everyday but fail to serve the dream in order for it to grow daily. we don’t take actions towards our dreams is there anything we afraid of or we live in the environment that destroys our characteristics and what we capable of.

most of us start to dream at a young age, we always want to be doctors ,nurses , police man.
were is the same confident that we had in childhood , it faded away just like that no. don’t panic when you fail to achieve your dreams. failure is to begin again more intelligently.
take the required actions for your dreams, don’t look at your dream coming to an end without pushing hard for it to not fade away.

a dream is something that we all want to achieve in future, the future starts today , it doesn’t start after ten years. you start to build your future now, you don’t have to seat back and relax because you think that time is by your side. time and time waits for no man, the time you waste today will cause you tomorrow. dreaming without actions is like telling a car to start without a key, is very important to drive our dreams, let us be the driver of our success as well. success doesn’t come to those who seat back and think that success will follow them. follow your success today, it doesn’t matter what kind if a family you come from. the ball is in your court you can turn that two room house into a mention house, that shack into a double story building.

forget about your yesterday and think about your today and tomorrow. the journey of success isnot as easy as we think is a hard journey that need us to be strong enough to face the upcoming storms like an eagle. the eagle it doesn’t fly away from the storms but it face it and come out as a champion. you can also achieve your success and dreams if only you can keep your eyes to the rewards and never turn away from it.

From: www.inspire21.com

Be Positive

 

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Virtually no competition

While professional soccer is still struggling to find a firm foothold in the United States, in the 1970s the North American Soccer League marked the brave first attempt to introduce the game to American sports fans. While most teams had only limited success at best, one did manage to break through to genuine mainstream popularity – the New York Cosmos.

It was the brainchild of Steve Ross, a passionate soccer fan who was also a major executive at Warner Communications.

Max Ross told his son Steve: “In life there are those who work all day, those who dream all day, and those who spend an hour dreaming before setting to work to fulfil those dreams. Go into the third category because there’s virtually no competition”.

Source: “Once In A Lifetime – The Extraordinary Story Of The New York Cosmos” by Gavin Newsham

 


The little wave

The story is abut a little wave, bobbing along in the ocean, having a grand old time. He’s enjoying the wind and the fresh air – until he notices the other waves in front of him, crashing against the shore. “My God, this terrible”, the wave says. “Look what’s going to happen to me!”

Then along comes another wave. It sees the first wave, looking grim, and it says to him: “Why do you look so sad?” The first wave says: “You don’t understand! We’re all going to crash! All of us waves are going to be nothing! Isn’t it terrible?”

The second wave says: “No, you don’t understand. You’re not a wave, you’re part of the ocean.”

Source: “Tuesdays With Morrie” by Mitch Albom

 


Believe what you feel

On this day, Morrie says that he has an exercise for us to try. We are to stand, facing away from our classmates, and fall backward, relying on another student to catch us. Most of us are uncomfortable with this, and we cannot let go for more than a few inches before stopping ourselves. We laugh in embarrassment.

Finally, one student, a thin, quiet, dark-haired girl whom I notice almost always wears bulky, white fisherman sweaters, crosses her arms over her chest, closes her eyes, leans back, and does not flinch, like one of those Lipton tea commercials where the model splashes into the pool..

For a moment, I am sure she is going to thump on the floor. At the last instant, her assigned partner grabs her head and shoulders and yanks her up harshly.

“Whoa!!” several students yell. Some clap. Morrie finally smiles. “You see”, he says to the girl, ‘you closed your eyes, That was the difference. Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them too – even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling”.

Source: “Tuesdays With Morrie” by Mitch Albom

From: Rogerdarlington.com

 

 

A Positive Attitude

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Choose to be Positive

A Dose Of Positive Attitude

— Author Unknown

Michael is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!” He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Michael was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Michael and asked him, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?” Michael replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood… or you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim… or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining… or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.

“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.

“Yes, it is,” Michael said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live your life.”

I reflected on what Michael said. Soon thereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that Michael was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Michael was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back. I saw Michael about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied. “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?” I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.

“The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon to be born daughter,” Michael replied. “Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live… or I could choose to die. I chose to live.”

“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked.

Michael continued… “The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read “He’s a dead man. I knew I needed to take action.”

“What did you do?” I asked.

“Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Michael. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. “Yes, I replied.” The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, “Gravity.” Over their laughter, I told them, “I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.”

“Michael lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything. Matthew 6:34 states: Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

After all, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.

Enjoy each day, each breath and mostly… each and every friend.

And remember to start each day with an “attitude of gratitude!”

From: www.inspire21.com

Six Variables That Predict Happiness

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“Do you think and feel positively about your life?

I know many people who would say they are happy and highly satisfied with their life. I also know many people who are dissatisfied and discontent with their life situation.

What is the difference between those who have positive well-being and those who are suffering?

There are many personal and social factors that play a role in our level of happiness, though they may not be what you would expect. For instance, it’s not money or intelligence that makes the difference in these individuals’ lives.

Fortunately psychological research has explored this concept and provided us with valuable insight into how we can be happier and more satisfied.

Various reviews of literature reveal that there are 6 primary variables that relate to subjective well-being.

 

Positive self-esteem

Feeling positively about ourselves is a major factor in whether we are satisfied with our life or not. A high self-esteem aids us in navigating relationships, confidently seeking growth and achievement, as well as experiencing positive emotions and dealing with adversity.

Sense of perceived control

Think of a time you felt out of control. What was this like? I imagine things felt chaotic and overwhelming. This is why a sense of control is a crucial predictor of subjective well-being. Believing we are in control of our life circumstances and having a sense of security is empowering. It prompts our  motivation to achieve our goals and gives us the courage to build hope and faith in our future.

Extroversion

In a study of college students who were asked to report their mood over the course of a week, those students who were extroverted rated themselves at a “2″ out of “3,” where “3″ was happy and zero was neutral. On the other hand, introverts rated themselves at a “1.” Extraverts overall rated themselves as happier.

This may be due to extraverts’ propensity to experience more positive emotions or that extraverts, being more sociable, are likely to make more positive and supportive relationships.

Optimism

People who are more optimistic about the future tend to report being happier and more satisfied. They believe that good things will happen and that adversity can be turned around. They may feel a sense of security and confidence about achieving their goals and dealing with life effectively.

It is important to mention that unrealistic optimism that cause problems when we overlook risk and disregard clear signs of trouble, however, ahealthy dose of optimism can really have a positive impact on how we engage in life and the success we experience.

Positive social relationships

This is another clear predictor of subjective well-being. There are two main components to positive social relationships: social support and emotional intimacy. Social support offers us the ability to cope more effectively, manage problems, and ultimately feel better about ourselves.

Emotional intimacy is when we’re connected with others through a deep and meaningful relationship.

Both of these factors combine to offer us joyful and productive relationship.

A sense of meaning and purpose to life

Having life-satisfaction comes from uncovering our life purpose and living out our personal mission and vision. When we are living from a purpose, we can develop a greater sense of meaning for what happens in our life, and a positively correlated topic with this is religiosity. Having a spiritual or religious relationship seems to aid in the cultivation of purpose and meaning.

Most of these variables are interrelated and build on one another, and they can be learned and developed if we are willing to put in the time to grow in these areas. Determine where you feel you could use more balance and development and set some goals to bring more of this into your life.”

Reference:

Compton W. C. (2005). An Introduction to Positive Psychology. Belmont, CA. Wadsworth, Cengage Learning.

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