The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet. — Frederick Buechner
Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve… but as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord. — Joshua 24:15
During my “dark night of the soul” — caused by a call from World Vision — I began reading my Bible with greater intensity. But when I came to Matthew 19 and the story of the rich young ruler, I wanted to run for the scissors and cut it out of my Bible. You remember the scene. A man variously described in three different gospel accounts as young, rich, and a ruler approached Jesus with this question:
Teacher, what good thing must I do to get eternal life? — Matthew 19:16
Now, as I read this passage, I saw myself in this man. He was young and prosperous. He was likely held in esteem by his peers and his community. He seemed to exemplify the epitome of Jewish respectability. I imagined that he was successful in everything he did, that he went to temple regularly, tithed his income, observed all the holy days and feasts, and read his Torah. He had worked the whole system and had ended up at the top. That was me in spades. Everyone who knew me would have said that I was a poster boy for the successful Christian life — church every Sunday, great marriage, five attractive (and above-average) kids, a corporate CEO with a Bible on his desk, a faithful supporter of Christian causes — the whole Christian enchilada. So I could really relate to this guy’s frame of mind. I sometimes imagine that he actually approached Jesus that day filled with a bit of pride, asking his question and expecting a nice pat on the back, perhaps thinking Jesus would point to him in front of the crowd and say, “This, my friends, is exactly the kind of follower I am looking for.” But Jesus’ reply was rather disappointing:
If you want to enter life, obey the commandments. — Matthew 19:17
That was not what the man had wanted to hear. So, trying to pin Jesus down a bit more, he asked, “Which ones?” (Matthew 19:18).
Jesus’ reply was conventional:
‘Do not murder, do not commit adultery, do not steal, do not give false testimony, honor your father and mother,’ and ‘love your neighbor as yourself’. — Matthew 19:18-19
The young man now seemed more pleased. “All these I have kept,” he said (Matthew 19:20). In other words, Check me out, Jesus. Check out my reputation. Ask my rabbi. You’ll find that I have got all these bases covered. Now, as I see it, this is where the young man should have stopped — no harm, no foul. He should have just said thank you to Jesus, shaken His hand, and walked away. But no, he decided to push it just a little further. “What do I still lack?” (Translation: Come on, Rabbi. This is too easy. Give me a tougher test.)
And this is when Jesus nailed him. “One thing you lack,” he told the self-righteous young man.
Go, sell everything you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in Heaven. Then come, follow Me. — Mark 10:21
Whoa, Jesus, time-out! Can you imagine what must have been going through the young man’s mind just then? Be serious, Jesus. Isn’t that a tad extreme? I’ve worked hard to get where I am, and I have obligations. Sell everything I have and give it away? I can’t just pick up and leave. I’ve got a wife and kids to support, workers who depend on me, and some big financial deals that are pending — I own a lot of land here. Let’s not be too radical about all of this. Aren’t you taking this a little too far? I tell you what: maybe I could just write a bigger check to help the poor…
But Jesus’ words hung in the air: “One thing you lack… Go, sell everything you have and give to the poor… Then come, follow Me.”
Jesus had looked into the man’s soul and diagnosed the condition of his heart. You see, on the outside he was doing all the right things, but on the inside his heart was divided. His possessions and his position were competing with God for primacy. He had surrendered his outward behavior to God, but his commitment to him was not absolute. He had not made a total surrender of self; he had not bet the farm. I don’t believe Jesus was saying that all of us have to sell everything we have and give it to the poor. No, Jesus was looking into the heart of this particular young man, and Jesus saw that the young man had not relinquished his life unconditionally. For him, his status and stuff had become idols. Most troubling of all was the very next line in Matthew’s account:
When the young man heard this, he went away sad, because he had great wealth. — Matthew 19:22
He couldn’t do it. At the moment of decision, he simply could not surrender everything. He turned his back on Jesus and walked away.
Are you willing to be open to God’s will for your life?
Jesus wanted everything; He always has. You lack one thing, Rich. Sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in Heaven. Then come, follow Me. Quitting my job, selling my house, and moving my family to serve at World Vision was uncomfortably equivalent to what Jesus had asked of this other rich young man. Can you see why I wanted to run for the scissors when I read this story in the Bible?
Over the past few years I have spoken with quite a few men and women who have heard my story and called me because they, too, want to go from success to significance1 by serving God more directly. Often they have decided that they want to move into ministry of some sort and invest themselves full-time in Christian work.
So I ask them a few questions: “Will you relocate? How important is title and salary? Are you willing to work where most needed?”
Invariably they reply with a list of conditions. Usually it sounds something like this: “Well, we’re very committed to staying in the Atlanta area. All of our friends are here, and we have spent years getting our house just right. Our kids are in a very special private school, and we don’t want to move them. We waited six years to join the country club, and now we’re members. We couldn’t take too big of a pay cut and still maintain our lifestyle… But other than that, we’re wide open to serve.” I really understand where they are coming from, because these are many of the same issues that weighed heavily on my mind as I wrestled with my call to World Vision. But the lesson I learned was that God expects us to serve Him on His terms — not ours. In fact, He dealt with this clearly in Luke:
As they were walking along the road, a man said to him, “I will follow you wherever you go.” Jesus replied, “Foxes have holes and birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head.”
He said to another man, “Follow Me.” But the man replied, “Lord, first let me go and bury my father.” Jesus said to him, “Let the dead bury their own dead, but you go and proclaim the Kingdom of God.”
Still another said, “I will follow you, Lord; but first let me go back and say good-by to my family.” Jesus replied, “No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God.” — Luke 9:57-62
Consistent with his encounter with the rich young ruler, Jesus was requiring an absolute surrender. To be a disciple means forsaking everything to follow Jesus, unconditionally, putting our lives completely in His hands. When we say that we want to be His disciple, yet attach a list of conditions, Jesus refuses to accept our terms. His terms involve unconditional surrender.
He is With You in Your Valley
SEPTEMBER 3, 2019
“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me.” Psalm 23:4a (NKJV)
It was a trendy restaurant with bird cages hung across the ceiling, old church pews for seats and an eclectic menu. I was with my husband Phil, so everything was fantastic.
Fantastic until I entered the ladies’ room, that is.
The decorator carried the urban barn theme into the bathroom. All wood and brick and totally funky and eccentric and … confusing. Here’s why.
I began losing my eyesight as a teen due to a disease called Retinitis Pigmentosa. Now, four decades later, my world is totally dark.
So, having to navigate through all that creativity alone was hard! Straight lines and predictable layouts are much easier.
I used my cane and ran my hand across the wooden doors until I found an opening. But the stall was at a weird angle and, after I made my way into it, I realized I couldn’t find my way out of it. Every wall in the stall felt the same.
Evidently, when I entered the stall, the door swung behind me and clicked itself shut. But getting out? Well, that was a problem.
Where was the latch?!
Where was the handle?!
Where was the door?!
There were so many hinges and handles inside the stall, I couldn’t determine which were decorative and which could get me out of that cage of confusion.
An overwhelming dread came over me, not knowing how I got so turned around and how I could get out of there. Phil, having heard me from outside the restroom door, poked his head in and asked, “Honey, are you OK?”
I’m not sure what I said, but it was obvious I was not OK. So he marched right into that women’s restroom and knocked on the outside of the stall door until I found it.
When I pulled the latch and tumbled out of the door, I was fighting anxiety.
He asked what happened. But I didn’t know, except that I’d gotten disoriented and felt stuck, afraid, confused and vulnerable.
We all have those things that make us feel afraid, confused and vulnerable. A difficult relationship, discouraging situation, chronic or fatal diagnosis, or even painful memories. I’ll just call them valleys.
And, when we find ourselves in the valley, we can feel vulnerable and long for a rescue, a shelter … a Shepherd for our souls.
The Lord is our Shepherd, and He is with us in our valleys.
Valleys might bring out our fear, but they also bring us closer to our Shepherd.
King David reminds us that “though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me” (Psalm 23:4a).
So, if you’re in a valley, you might not be able to get out of it. But here are some ways to get throughit:
1. Look to the Shepherd.
Oh sister, we are just as easily rattled as sheep! So when we’re startled by situations and looking for a way out, we can look to our Shepherd first. He’s with us in our valley. He promises He’ll never leave us nor forsake us.
That means you will never, ever walk through a valley alone. So, if it’s tough and if you’re afraid, don’t look for the exit; look for the Shepherd. He is with you.
2. Listen to the Shepherd
His voice is His Word. Even in your darkest valley, the light of His Word can give comfort and clarity. Listen to Scripture, and be comforted by His presence and promises when you’re in a valley.
Pick just one or two Scriptures to meditate on and see how His Word will be the light you need.
3. Lean on the Shepherd
Valleys make us feel weak. But when you’re weak, He is strong in and for you. And if He leads you through valleys that seem too difficult, He will carry you.
It’s okay to feel weak and need strength — we’re just sheep who need a Shepherd. So many things in this life are over our heads and beyond our abilities. But nothing we face is too hard for Him.
So, don’t rely on your own strength. Lean on God’s instead — He will be enough to get you through your valley.